Our attitudes are made up of what we believe about ourselves and what’s important to us. Feeling good and enjoying life is a mindset that all of us can develop. You can make this choice at an emotional level (in terms of how you feel about yourself) and at a psychological level (in the way that you behave).
Your chronological age is only a number. What really makes the difference is a positive state of mind, living a life that you’re passionate about. When you achieve these goals, a magical thing happens. You look and feel good, no matter what the year of your birth is.
Consider following:
1. Live your life for a purpose
The first Attitude in life should be to decide as what you want to be, doing or have with the rest of your life. It’s important for each of us to have goals, but we often forget (or fail) to put aside the time to set them. It could be that you would like to adopt a profession, learn new sports, language or skill, meet new friends,
or anything else you set your mind to. Or it could be
Something more drastic, like changing your relationship, career or where you live. This Attitude will help you focus on what you would like to achieve, and show you how to identify what you really want to change in your life.
2. Create what you want (from inside > out)
The mind and body are inextricably connected, so when we change on the inside, we automatically change on the outside. If an egg is broken from inside out, a new life come into existence; and if it broken from outside, life vanishes. So often we depend on external ‘things’ to make us feel better; however, the feelings of pleasure that this type of thing encourages are normally short-lived. Why? Because we are relying on something ‘external’ to change the way we feel inside. As we have tackled, the symptom and not the root cause of why we felt bad. As a result, the effect is always temporary.
In contrast, change on the inside is permanent because it’s something over which you can take responsibility and control. If there’s something you want to achieve, don’t let the desire to make that first step ‘perfect’ hold you back, be prepared to make mistakes along the way and learn from them.’ Feel good and create happiness involving your subconscious in it’s working out.
3. Discover Your Self & Create Harmony within Yourself
This Attitude is all about finding out what you are passionate about, because doing so goes a long way towards helping you discover your sense of self, and thereby increasing your confidence and self-esteem. We comprise of Three parts> mind, body and Soul. Believe it or not, the key to learning to respect you and feeling is in working with harmony between your mind, body and soul. Without realizing the role of soul, it is just like you are having a telephone mobile set without its SIM. As you must know that without the soul, body is just flesh and bones liable to be wasted out very soon. The mind has two major parts-dealing with your attitude and working > Conscious mind and the sub-conscious mind.
When we allow ourselves to discover what we are passionate about, we experience the triumph of love and hope over fear. Remember the last time you felt real Passion? That was the real you. “Baba Bullay Shah” says and I Quote,
As a first step, keep a diary of your key activities. For example, record how much time you spend on each of the following: the time which you spend bonding your mind & body with the soul:
(1) Are you satisfied with your Job/business and there is no conflict/silent. Argument over it between your soul and conscious mind?
(2) Is your way of thinking, working, dealing with others in harmony with your inner/self?
(3) Your conscious and the soul are not dissatisfied with what you are doing > your leisure activities, work, friends, fitness, and focused time for yourself, time with your family?
(4) Ask yourself if you are happy with the results. What do others say in your absence about you? Do they begin to define who you are in a way that you’d like to be defined?
(5) Is your focus where it ought to be? And if it isn’t, which areas would you like to devote more or less of your time to?
Set yourself some goals and begin to rebalance your time, your thinking, your way of working and dealing others.
4. Be True to yourself
The principle is about being true to yourself, your family and be honest while dealing with others. Take a few moments to answer following questions to your good self:
(1). what are your means of earning and are you consciously Satisfied with its source?
(2). what things are frustrating you during your work?
(3). Are you being true to yourself, your children with present Means of earning?
(4). Is your daily working, its process and dealing, a source of Satisfaction for your conscious or is it in conflict with your Values and belief?
We need to discover what our values are. Our values are instilled in us at an early age, most often before the age of seven and settled in Our Sub-conscious. At this age our surroundings are imprinted upon us with little of our own filtering. For example, our values will be influenced by the values of our parents, close family, environment, school, our friends and everything and everyone else that influence our life.
Our values determine the way we think and how we behave. If you want to find out what your values are, then ask yourself what was important to those around you when you were growing up. It’s likely that you have adopted many of their values. However, it must be understood that our values change with time to some extent and also can be changed consciously.
If you are a parent, I guarantee that on the day your first child was born your values would have changed. This happens unconsciously. Other times in our lives when our values are likely to change include marriage, bereavement, retirement, illness and so on. Discover your values and be true to them and you will feel instantly better about your life.
5. Be Conscious, You are Good Enough for yourself
This Attitude explores how to change limiting beliefs or fixed ideas or rigidness for that matter. Everyone possesses them. Our beliefs are views or ideas we have about ourselves, other people and situations that we hold to be true. Like our values, our beliefs are formed during the imprint period, before the age of seven.
The most important thing to understand about beliefs is that they are generalisations that we create from life experiences. Most of us do not consciously decide what we believe. Our beliefs become our reality. We rarely challenge our long-held beliefs and they become a filter through which we sieve all of our life’s expectations and experience.
So, if you don’t believe you’re good enough, then you’ll filter all your experiences through that belief until you only notice the times this is true, rather than noticing all the times you were successful or even more than good enough.
6. Create Mindset For Healthy Eating
In order to eat healthy, it is important to create the mindset necessary for healthy eating.
For healthy eating, we need to reframe the way we see our bodies. Instead of seeing them as less than perfect, or even ugly, it’s essential to see them as the means through which we will achieve our life’s purpose. We need to treat our bodies with love and respect, and regard food and meals as a way of providing them with the nourishment they require to support us on our journey.
Any self-criticism will leave our bodies struggling to support us to be the best we can be. We must be ready to praise ourselves, and start being kind about every part of our bodies, knowing that any degrading thoughts will leave our mind & body struggling. Our mind and body give us strength to achieve our goals and, in return, we need to truly love and respect them for the amazing tools that they are.
7. Have Time for yourself
This Attitude is all about time. Normally, we have time for everything and everybody except for our self. Do you embrace time as your friend or your enemy? Are you someone who often says, ‘I don’t have time for that’? If you are someone who experiences time as a scarce commodity, of which there is never enough, then you are creating a completely different personal reality from someone who perceives that they have all the time in the world. There are 86400 moments in a day (24 hours) and sufficient time is available for your activities if time is utilised judicially.
May be you even experienced some of the symptoms of stress such as breathlessness, panic attacks and high blood pressure. Most people spend their lives either in the past or the future, but actually past is history and cannot give anything except irritations; whereas, only way to secure future is by concentrating on the present. This is why those who live in the past often suffer from guilt, and those who worry about the future often suffer from anxiety. However, if you live in the present you can focus on enjoying the moment, whatever you are doing. This has a more relaxing impact on the body.
8. Utilize Energy For Thinking Positively
It is important to give ourselves a powerful base from where we can move forward. It is better to look at the people in our life (past and present both) and consider whether there is any one about whom one have bad feelings and need to forgive him/her. Anger and blame hold us back without ant any gain. While suffering is an inevitable part of the life, forgiveness is the key to liberation from these bad feelings. An old saying expresses it in a different way that if there is an enemy in your heart, it is not safe there for a friend. So, it is better to forgive because bad feelings can’t give you anything except diverting part of your thought energy, depleting your concentration.
Remember following while forgiving:
(a) It is important to recognize that your pain is coming from the hurt feelings, thoughts, physical upsets and it is you who is suffering not that person because of whom you are having the bad feelings.
a. It can help to share your feelings with others and benefits from their support. Do whatever you can to feel better. Remember that forgiving others is with the aim to help you alone and not others.
(b) Forgiveness is neither about forgetting nor did condoning what happened.
(c) Forgiveness does not necessarily mean reconciliation with the person who upset you. It is about finding peace within you.
(d) Remember, you do not need other person to admit that they wronged you, before you make the decision to forgive.
(e) Choosing to have compassion for yourself and whoever wronged you is a powerful step and needs extra courage to do that. Do you have it?
(f) Forgiveness liberates you from that feeling and living a happy, fulfilled life is the best retribution.
9. Restore Your Energy
Every action you take involves using your energy and in the process, your energy keep depleting. Some time the energy is depleted even when you are not doing anything but your intention to do something is taxing your mind energy wise heavily. Furthermore, sometime, even long after the event, its thoughts and after effects keep on draining your energy.
Relationships and living in non-conducive environments can also drain your energy. Depletion can also result from working in an environment that doesn’t allow you to express your creativity. Worst is the depletion as a result of your financial worries and concerns that you are unable to meet.
The first step is to identify those areas which are draining your energy; only then it is possible for you to reorganize yourself so that you can ensure that you are not diminishing your energy reserves, rather utilizing it properly. Here are few questions to start you off:
(a) Are there relationships in my life that are draining me?
(b) Are there phone calls, letters or E-mail, which I can send to take it off from my mind?
(c) Is there any relationship that i should bring it an end?
(d) Is there a gap for someone special to me in my life?
(e) Am I satisfied with my job/work/business or it requires some change?
(f) Is there shortage of high energy people around me to spend my time with?
(g) Is there a project i need to bring it to completion?
(h) Is there anyone i need to forgive and forget?
(i) Are there any financial concerns I need to pay more attention to?
(j) Am I working in an organized manner or i need to organize it?
(k) Are my priorities alright or i need to change it?
Make a list of the areas where your energy is being drained. Make it as comprehensive as you can spend some time on it. Re-organize it and replenish your energy reserves.
10. Start an an Inner Dialogue
Our soul can provide guidance to us in the shortest possible time as it has the access to even the results of whatever is there only in intentions and we plan to do it. Simply ask for guidance from your inner self.
Phrase this question in your mind and wait for the response. It may take minutes, hours or days but the answer will present itself, through your 6th sense. It may come in the form of dream, day dream, a thought or feelings in the mind and eyes. Whenever you are required to take up an important decision like for example starting a new job or a relation, ask whether it will prove good for you. If you get into the habit of asking for guidance, it will soon become your second nature.
11. Always Offer Gratitude. A real wealthy person is the one who has the contentment, and peace of heart and mind. Always be contented with what you have been blessed. If you want to compare yourself, compare yourself with those who have not been blessed with what you have been with and enjoying it. Always be grateful to almighty ALLAH for what you have been blessed. Start your day with offering gratitude.
Gratitude attracts and brings many more good things in your life. When you feel and express gratitude, success, happiness and prosperity will flow into your life.
God Bless You and Your Family,
Javed Mirza
javedmirza94@hotmail.com